First Date Questions Are Blend Between Romance and Interview
We all know the routine: Online communication with our prospective date feels great. But nothing really occurs until you meet each other face to face. It's only then that we discover is there's any real chemistry and/or possibility of romance.
And people often feel a lot of pressure in anticipation of that pivotal first date. There's much to decide: What is the best venue? What are the easiest topics of conversation? Should you attempt any kind of physical interaction? Should you view the process as more romantic or more like an interview?
It has been said that the first date experience can be one of the most anxiety-provoking situations that we might ever encounter. A reason for this is that we place a great deal of importance on, and are heavily invested in the outcome. Indeed, in many cases, our relationship future will be able to be traced to performance in this all important first meeting.
The ultimate outcome of the first date can be one of two possibilities: development of a healthy dating relationship or dating that goes nowhere. A way to improve the probability of the first scenario involves adopting a more strategic approach to first date questions than just to facilitate pleasant and relaxing conversation.
Demonstrating simple, genuine interest in the other is often the approach to first date protocol advocated by conventional dating experts. While this approach might be good for facilitating a conversational environment more generally, it is also important to ensure that interest be strategically focussed. It's important to remember that there is an exciting goal to the first date: to decide whether our date might qualify as a soul mate, or not.
Here are a few tips:
Make sure you open a space for a full range of information.
Ask follow-up questions to further draw out the talking.
Keep an attentive ear to form and style of expression.
Try to focus at least some of the conversation on other topics other than answers to "throw-away" questions such as, "who was your favorite school teacher", "what is your favorite way to spend a Saturday", and "what do you hate most about the dating process (Tell me so I can avoid it)"
In our current viewpoint, the first date should attain a special kind of significance: No, not an opportunity for something more intimate. What we want here is to construct an attitude or approach to first date communication that represents both our intellectual and emotional sides. Thus, we share facts about our life, but focus on the things about our life that we love. As we do this, we open a space for our date to feel safe to do the same.
Mainstream perspective on dating holds that the last thing you want to do on a first date is conduct an interview. The current view expressed here flies in the face of that convention, espousing the idea that the optimum approach to first date communication combines the process of romantic connecting with clinical interview. The trick in carrying this off successfully is to disguise the latter while indulging in the former.
Above all else, a first date should be kept simple, low-key, relatively inexpensive and centered on enjoyable conversation. But more importantly, it needs to stay focussed, and on task: gently working into the conversation certain, key strategic questions that allow you to predict important underlying aspects of your date's potential for healthy romantic relationship.
And people often feel a lot of pressure in anticipation of that pivotal first date. There's much to decide: What is the best venue? What are the easiest topics of conversation? Should you attempt any kind of physical interaction? Should you view the process as more romantic or more like an interview?
It has been said that the first date experience can be one of the most anxiety-provoking situations that we might ever encounter. A reason for this is that we place a great deal of importance on, and are heavily invested in the outcome. Indeed, in many cases, our relationship future will be able to be traced to performance in this all important first meeting.
The ultimate outcome of the first date can be one of two possibilities: development of a healthy dating relationship or dating that goes nowhere. A way to improve the probability of the first scenario involves adopting a more strategic approach to first date questions than just to facilitate pleasant and relaxing conversation.
Demonstrating simple, genuine interest in the other is often the approach to first date protocol advocated by conventional dating experts. While this approach might be good for facilitating a conversational environment more generally, it is also important to ensure that interest be strategically focussed. It's important to remember that there is an exciting goal to the first date: to decide whether our date might qualify as a soul mate, or not.
Here are a few tips:
Make sure you open a space for a full range of information.
Ask follow-up questions to further draw out the talking.
Keep an attentive ear to form and style of expression.
Try to focus at least some of the conversation on other topics other than answers to "throw-away" questions such as, "who was your favorite school teacher", "what is your favorite way to spend a Saturday", and "what do you hate most about the dating process (Tell me so I can avoid it)"
In our current viewpoint, the first date should attain a special kind of significance: No, not an opportunity for something more intimate. What we want here is to construct an attitude or approach to first date communication that represents both our intellectual and emotional sides. Thus, we share facts about our life, but focus on the things about our life that we love. As we do this, we open a space for our date to feel safe to do the same.
Mainstream perspective on dating holds that the last thing you want to do on a first date is conduct an interview. The current view expressed here flies in the face of that convention, espousing the idea that the optimum approach to first date communication combines the process of romantic connecting with clinical interview. The trick in carrying this off successfully is to disguise the latter while indulging in the former.
Above all else, a first date should be kept simple, low-key, relatively inexpensive and centered on enjoyable conversation. But more importantly, it needs to stay focussed, and on task: gently working into the conversation certain, key strategic questions that allow you to predict important underlying aspects of your date's potential for healthy romantic relationship.
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Knowing and asking the right strategic questions on a first date can make the all important difference in finding a healthy relationship vs dating that goes nowhere. For more information about the strategy of first date questions, visit www.FirstDateQuestions.net.
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